DAY 6: How Our Love Can (Unknowingly) Hinder

Welcome to Day 6. We are almost at the end of our first week. Today, we are going to discuss a concept that is perhaps the most important "spiritual mechanic" you need to understand.

It is about the Unconditional Love Trap.

We know that your loved one’s soul is on a journey toward Moksha (the Source/Light). But we also know that love is the strongest force in the universe.

Here is the delicate truth: Because they love you unconditionally, they feel your pain.

If your grief remains a constant, heavy storm—if you are constantly signaling "I cannot survive without you," "I am broken," or "Come back"—your loved one feels this distress.

Imagine a mother leaving for a necessary trip, but she sees her child screaming and crying at the window. Does she keep walking? Or does she stop, turn back, and run home to comfort the child?

Because of their immense love for you, if they see you drowning in grief, they may choose to pause their journey. They may stay close to the earth plane to "comfort" you, or they may even choose to reincarnate too soon—returning to a physical body before their soul has fully rested and processed—simply to be near you again or to try to "fix" the pain they left behind.

This is called "Attachment-Driven Reincarnation." It is born of love, but it is a cycle that hinders their highest evolution. It keeps them tied to the "wheel of karma" because of our emotions.

We don't want them to return or stay because they feel guilty for leaving us. We want them to move forward into the Light, to rest, to heal, and to eventually return (if they choose) only when the time is divinely right.

The greatest gift you can give them is the signal that you are going to be okay.

When you heal, you release them. You tell them, "I love you so much that I want you to go. I will be strong. I will live. You don't need to worry about me."

Action (The 'How'):

To help release them, we must change the "frequency" of the memories we are broadcasting. Often, grief makes us obsess over the sad, final moments (the hospital, the accident, the funeral). These are heavy anchors.

Today’s action is "Reframing the Memory."

We are going to take a "heavy" memory and find the "light" inside it. This changes the signal you send out.

1. Identify a "Heavy" Memory: Think of a memory that haunts you or brings you instant pain. (e.g., Seeing them in the hospital bed).

2. Find the Hidden Love: Look closer at that same memory. Where was the love? Where was the bravery? Where was the connection?

3. Rewrite the Signal: In your journal, write the "Old Story" and then the "New Truth."

Example 1:

• Old Story (Pain): "I remember how weak he looked in that hospital bed. It kills me to think of him like that." (This signals distress/pain).

• New Truth (Love): "I remember that even when he was weak, I was holding his hand. I was there. He was not alone. Our love was stronger than the sickness." (This signals comfort/strength).

Example 2:

• Old Story (Pain): "I wasn't there when she passed. I feel so guilty."

• New Truth (Love): "My soul was with her soul. She knew I loved her every day of her life. The physical distance meant nothing to our hearts."

Your Task: Do this for just one memory today.

By shifting your focus from the trauma of the event to the love present during the event, you stop broadcasting distress and start broadcasting peace. This allows your loved one to breathe a sigh of relief and continue their journey home.

You are doing the bravest work imaginable. I'll see you tomorrow for Day 7.